When your relationship has become doomed, you expect that the in laws will stop talking to you. That friendships will be lost. What I didn’t expect though is the look in an acquaintances eyes when you tell them. Its that look which is either sympathy (and then again you become a victim) or that oh god, she’s going to start crying, and I’m going to be stuck listening to this, run while you still can…. (followed by the sounds of someone screaming down a hill). This is however, I’ve found a great way to get out of a date that isn’t going well. I’ve never seen a man literally physically step further away from me! Hoorah!! As he was a complete creep!! (shudder…).
Even with this said, I’ve found this surprisingly painful, as not only was I rejected from my husband, his family who adopted me as their own, but now complete stranger run from the hills at the sound of it.
And what I’ve learnt from all this, just don’t tell people you don’t have to. Only tell your real friends and family whats going on. And trust me, when this happens, they appear next to you, like an invisible fairy, with a bottle of your favorite poison, a box of tissues and more love than you can shake a big stick at.
So, see you soon! And in the interim, remember tomorrow will be a little easier, and the sun will shine a little brighter (especially in Dublin, we’re having a heatwave, hoorah!). And if you know someone going through this, just be kind, listen, take them for a coffee (or drink) and let them off load. As they’ve just lost a huge part of their support network & they probably need someone to off load on or someone to just listen (and not judge).